Two Steps to achieve success

 

Zig Ziglar once said, “If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.” And each of us knows from our own experience that he is right. As humans, we prefer comfort and routines. As we go through life, one day flows into the next. We often work on autopilot, choosing easily over-complicated and failing to turn our good intentions into reality.

Those ‘good intentions are admirable, but without action, they’re just what you intend on eventually doing but never achieving. Good choices are hard to aim for without an action plan.

Do you have a plan for action in your life? Perhaps you want to eat a more healthy diet or lose the pandemic weight that has crept up on you. Maybe you want to establish a regular workout routine and stick with it this time. Perhaps you want to live a healthier lifestyle that honors your temple.

The keys to your success are two-fold:  steady the target and create momentum.  

How to stop a moving target

Imagine if you were playing darts and tried to hit the bull’s eye. A sudden shift to the right or left can cause you to miss your target. Without accuracy, will you ever hit that target? Not likely.

Your good intentions are exactly like that moving target without setting specific goals. You would like to lose some weight, feel a little better, make a change in your diet–but without a guided plan or method, it may take longer than you expect, or you lose focus, and it never happens. 

By assessing and addressing, you can finally hit the bull’s eye is to define your goals and write them down:  

  • How do you want to feel in your skin?  
  • What physical goals do you have that you can’t achieve now?
  • What kind of changes do you want to make in how you nourish your body?  
  • How many days per week do you think you should move?
  • What would be the health benefits of honoring your temple?

“Once you know where you want to end up, you are much more likely to get there.” If you have a guided plan, you are sure to get there if you execute the plan. But you have to start making moves towards your goals. That is where momentum comes in.

Receive guidance to help you reach your goals

In his book, Eat that Frog, Brian Tracy discusses the Momentum Principle of Success. In Tracy’s words: 

This principle says that although it may take tremendous amounts of energy to overcome inertia and get started initially, it then takes far less energy to keep going.” 1

There is much wisdom in his words. The most challenging part of achieving a goal is just getting started. That first day of doing things differently or the first experience of bypassing an unhealthy treat in favor of a food that will give you more energy can be daunting. There will always be a temptation without a plan and tools to overcome it. It makes it hard to abstain. Thank God for Jesus, who gave us access to Him anytime we need His strength. Bible and Bootcamps will guide you in prayers and meditations to use when tempted. It isn’t easy, and it certainly isn’t fun, but it will be worth it!

So how do you get that momentum?  How do you start moving? Accountability is the answer. Having someone else involved in your efforts can be the most important factor in your success. Prayer, worship, and devotion go a long way.

It is hard to change lifelong habits on your own. It would help if you had radical motivation to involve others in your efforts. Setting deadlines, making commitments, and entering contests all provide an external motivation that will carry you through even the toughest temptations. You need tools to help you succeed. Tangible things you can do to help you achieve the goal of living a healthier lifestyle and honoring your temple. Because I know it can be done. I want to help you get it done, and that is why I am offering Bible and Bootcamps for FREE this month. 

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And once you get started, you will find that the momentum principle kicks in, and it becomes easier and easier to keep going. 

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You can make that moving target come to a screeching halt and blast the bull’s eye right out of it by taking a few minutes and joining us for Bible and Bootcamps. Success is within your reach. You can do this!

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1Tracy, Brian (2007-01-01). Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time (p. 107). Berrett-Koehler Publishers. Kindle Edition.

Anticipating Jesus

Anticipating Jesus

I’ve always loved Christmas. My mother loves Christmas and always made sure that we had a very Merry Christmas.  As I grow in my relationship with Christ,, the season has changed from gift-giving to rejoicing in the coming of our Lord.  The perspective shift is everything.  Shifting my focus from “Santa’s” coming to “Go, Jesus, it’s your birthday!” Takes the pressure off the Holiday season.  When I’m not focusing on getting the perfect gift or getting everyone a gift, take time to focus on the gift to this world,, Jesus.

 

The true light that gives light to everyone, was coming into the world. John 1:9 

It’s Advent season,, and it’s the preparatory time for the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ.  I’m sure you know,, but it sometimes gets lost. While the “Holiday Season” is all the buzz,, we are making out a list, filling our Amazon carts, and receiving extra emails and gift guides to prepare us for the Holidays.

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but do we have the same anticipation for the coming of Jesus?  Are we jaded by the fact that we know that He was born, died, and rose again that we aren’t like Children on Christmas day awaiting the most incredible gift- salvation?

Jesus is coming

“When they saw the star they were filled with joy.” Matthew 2:10

Not only for Christmas,, but He is coming back to conquer the world and restore His kingdom. The birth of Christ was the beginning of a promise made centuries before that will last until eternity. I find we are so temporal. We focus on the now instead of what is lasting, even in our health.  We focus on what will help us, seeing results now instead of investing in ourselves as preventative care for our future.


So, as we love others through giving gifts, don’t forget to honor and bring glory to our Lord. The reason for the season and Savior for our eternity. With anticipation like a child on Christmas morning, let’s get hyped because JESUS is coming to save the world. So, I pray for good cheer, joy, hope, and love this December.

“The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”). Matthew 1:23

In just a few weeks, we will remember when God was born to be with us.  I feel the Bible is an intimate diary or romance novel of God’s undying, steadfast love for us. The lengths He will do to save His people from themselves,, and no matter what we do, He will always be there with open arms to love and guide us through.

How do you celebrate your birthday?
How do you celebrate your besties? Spouse?

How do you celebrate your kid’s birthday? Christmas? Easter?

Why are we celebrating and honoring our children more than we do Jesus?

This holiday season instead of focusing on gifts. Let’s put an emphasis on the gift of Jesus.  There are many resources out there for you to find Advent you and/or your family can share with each other in anticipation of Christmas day.  I’ve heard people do twenty-five acts of kindness which is a great way to share God’s love.  I encourage you to pray and see where the Spirit leads you.

Be aware during the Holidays

The Holiday Blues are real, and I feel it’s heavily based on the unrealistic expectation of media, social media, and our world place on things.  Count your blessings and not your presents or Christmas cards this year.  You will find more fulfillment in blessing others and finding benefits than gifting.  Reach out to others who may be lonely during this time.  Phone calls go so much further nowadays than emails or direct messages.  Although, Holiday Cards are nearly extinct-send them you never know how your thoughtfulness can help someone feel the love during this time.

I just hope that the meaning of the season doesn’t get lost in the chaos and when we fix our eyes on Jesus it brings peace and hope to our circumstances. Praying for you this holiday season.

How do you prepare for Christmas?

On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success

21 Day Social Media Fast

In September, I took a 21 day Social Media fast, and it was so clarifying.  Social Media is a great tool to share information quickly, but just like most things, overuse is abuse. I needed to step back and spend time with God to renew and restore His calling and purpose for me and act in obedience.  To change a bad habit, you have to replace it with the one you enjoy more.  So, I needed to find a habit I enjoyed more, which was my love for books. I have always been a reader, but my daily scroll took over my reading. So, during the 21 days, I began reading books. It was a great substitute. Instead of getting bits and pieces of information, I was getting complete thoughts, paragraphs and I didn’t have others’ opinions or comments to distract me.

Since my fast, I have become a voracious reader again, maintaining my boundaries with social media. I just finished a great book called On Purpose by Tanya Dalton, and I wanted to share it with you. This book was such an easy read and had so much wisdom and actionable steps. You need to add it to your cart or kindle ASAP.

“When we don’t pause and question our thinking from time to time, we can find that we’ve been sleepwalking through our days. It’s time to choose to be awake in your own life.” Tanya Dalton

I read that excerpt from On Purpose gifted to me from the publishers of @tanya.i.dalton new book and was like, “Well, okay, she’s not going to hold back.” When living on purpose, we shouldn’t.

Must Read On Purpose: The Busy’s Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of meaning and success

On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of meaning and success.  I love how this book explores all aspects of clarifying and exploring your purpose. It’s broken up into four sections Reflection, Projection, Action, and Alteration. You don’t want to skip around because the pieces don’t make much sense, just from my experience.  It’s fascinating how one builds on the other and helps you navigate your visions and purpose.

In the reflection section, you navigate your past to figure out why you make the choices that you do. In the Projection section, you explore what you plan on doing in the future based on what you discovered in reflection—creating clarity on what you want for your future. In the Action section, you prepare to execute by releasing fears and doubts of your past and figuring out how to work towards your future. In the Alteration section, you prepare for the unexpected, the “what ifs” of life that catch you off guard. How are you going to deal?

“We make excuses to ourselves because we aren’t sure what is truly possible.” Tanya Dalton

On Purpose is a great tool for clarity

I love how forward she is in this book. It’s sometimes toe stomping and refreshing because it cuts to the chase, like Tanya’s definition of adulting- an excuse for people to use to let off their big dream.  This book reiterated over and over again how we are in getting in the way of our purpose.  If we are to achieve the definition of success, we desire. We have to choose, wake up, and stop walking around mindless, almost absent and using excuses to limit us. If you’re looking for a new book, read that provides clarity and cuts the fluff. I highly recommend @tanya.i.dalton new book.

“What if we decided to actually choose our choices?” Tanya Dalton

So, I’m asking you, “What IF WE DECIDED to actually CHOOSE our CHOICES?” It is one of those questions you need to ask yourself daily. I highly recommend you choose to check out this book, On Purpose, by Tanya Dalton.

Grace in Loss

 

Learning something new

Every time I think that I have this Christian walk thing figured out God gives me another challenge to master. Not that I think that I could be perfect and walk like Jesus, but I make a conscious effort to live and abide in Christ. There are so many challenges that I face in my attempts but this one in particular keeps coming up in many different ways. It’s something that is multi-faceted but people seem to pigeon hole in one or two areas; grace.

My understanding of grace is God showing unmerited favor to us in the form of blessings. A pretty generalized idea that can be applied in many situations right? Yes, so with that interpretation I never realized how much grace God really does show us daily. There are the obvious, and there are the not-so-obvious ones that we take for granted and then there are the really big ones.

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Different types of grace

1 Corinthians 15: 10 But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them—yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me.

The obvious graces that I recognize and give praise to God daily for: I woke up this morning, food to eat, clothes to wear, home, healthy family, great husband. There are the ones that we take for granted but still are His grace nonetheless. These are the ones that I never praise Him for nor do I recognize as grace but I should and need to work on. The tedious tiresome task of our everyday life is God’s grace too.  For me being a stay at home mom’s those are the ones that I tend to complain about the most. I am grateful for God’s grace I am able to stay at home. I am grateful that although I complain and behave ungratefully; he still shows me favor. Things like laundry, dishes, bathrooms, and kitchen floors (to name a few). These are the ones that I am still trying to master and he is challenging me with everyday.

Then there are the really big ones, those are monumental moments in my life that I can pinpoint the effect His grace had on me. It was by God’s grace that I married my husband. The house that we live in was definitely through His grace and direction.  One that really stands out in my mind lately and I don’t really think I have thoroughly processed is the birth of my third daughter.

 

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Life changing Grace
My youngest one was what would be refer to as an “accident.” We weren’t intentionally planning to conceive her and I was in complete denial that I was pregnant in the beginning. All the signs were there but I was passing them off as other things. Until, I was unbearably sick for days.  So, took the test, came out positive and headed to the doctor. Went through all the general procedure and had an ultrasound to measure the baby. At the ultra sound found out that “Yay! ( a little sarcasm) not only did we accidentally conceive one child but there were two in there.” Have you ever seen the commercial where the dad passes out over learning of triplets? Imagine my husbands face just before he passed out but didn’t actually fall to the ground. I wasn’t exactly thrilled but I was ready for whatever God had given us.

We continued to live life and scheduled another ultrasound appointment 3 weeks later. Still unbelievably sick to the point I had lost 10 pounds in three weeks. Was very weak, tired and couldn’t get much accomplished. Went in with my little sister and soon to be middle daughter for the ultra-sound excited to see how my two lil ones had progressed in the 3 short weeks.  At 11 weeks, I went in for the next ultrasound; Get in, lathered up, after a few swipes the ultrasound tech brow furrows, a few more swipes and she says, “I will be back I have to go talk to the doctor.” Hind sight, I should have known something was wrong but dealing with a curious 5 year old and chatting with my sister I didn’t pay attention.  The doctor comes in,introduces her self and after few swipes regretfully tells me,”I am sorry but “Baby A” no longer has a heart beat.” Seriously, how do you react to something like that? You only have had 3 weeks to process that everything will be multiplied times two and just as quickly as you come to terms with that; you subtract it back down to one.  I am not a very emotional person and I admittedly can be slow some time so it took me a long time to process that, honestly I still am working on it.

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Ephesians 2:8  For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—.

We left and I had the mommy task of answering lots of questions that I couldn’t answer myself. Got seen by my doctor the next day and she explained to me that it was probably the best thing that “Baby A” didn’t make it. It probably had some “cell abnormalities, defects, they were fraternal so that should have no effect on Baby B, blah blah blah,” doctor talk. The gist is that then I was on bed rest for 6 weeks, lots of doctors appointments to make sure that “Baby B” would be okay. Fast forward 6 months and I had a wonderful, natural delivery of a 7 lb 8 oz. healthy little girl who was perfect in every way. Her name is Milah and she is my happiest child, super intelligent and a weird and funny fact was born with four nipples. We jokingly say in remembrance of her twin but there might be some truth to that we have yet to find out. (Insert twilight zone music now). Through God’s grace he had spared her from her siblings fate and she is now our little happy survivor. Her middle name is Taryn-Grace and every day I am reminded of God’s unmerited favor of  not taking both babies but sparing me one. There are days that I look at her and think, “What if there had been two?” and there are others day that I look at her and think, “What would have I done with two?”

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Depths of His Grace

Just as God is infinite with His love for us, I find He is even more so with His grace. Every day at every moment we are walking, talking, breathing and basking in His grace. The birth of my daughter was death of me relying on the world, it strengthened my faith and made me the strong Christian woman I am today. That in itself if you knew the path I was on is God’s grace. Seeing this perfect little person that from the very beginning before she even came to us God showed favor. That was more than enough proof that my God is an awesome God.  Every day when I sit and reflect on the grace that He shows me in the obvious, the routine and the really big ones. (Not every day but some days there are those neon light big moments) Where not only He show me faith but glimpse of the immensity of His love for me through His grace.

How has God showed you grace today? Yesterday? In a big way?

Food & Mood: Healing the Whole Person- Mind, Body, & Spirit

Recently, on Social Media, I have been open with my battle of anxiety and depression and how living a healthier lifestyle has helped me.  I reached out to a long-time friend Dr.Angela Clack to get her expert opinion on the effects of food and nutrition on mental health. I am honored that Dr. Clack would share it with my readers and me.  Some great info here so take notes: 

It all starts with your mindset

Years ago, I lost 50lbs with fitness, nutrition, and accountability (a great nutritionist, professional accountability to hold my feet to the fire if I messed up), and I loved the results. However, because I made my goal a number on the scale and a clothing size instead of a commitment to a lifestyle change- the weight slowly crept back.

 

Well, I know where I went wrong, and I’m sharing my story as well as sharing insights from the therapist’s corner to inspire and educate others about the mind-body connection. As well as the impact food has on our mood-both scientifically (through research) and from my experience in working with hundreds of people who have struggled with both emotional health difficulties (depression and anxiety) and weight and body image issues.

Mental Health Disorder defined

To understand the complex nature of mental health disorders, the reader will need a clear definition of what clinical symptoms are typical for someone experiencing mental health/mental illness. The problem is that not all people experience the same symptoms. Men and women often differ in how their mental health problems manifest as well as across cultures. Women are twice as often as men to experience major depression. One fourth to one-sixth of childbearing age women are on an anti-depressant. For consistency and purposes of this article, I will provide a broad definition.

First, my definition of mental health disorder-is a disconnection between your emotional, physical, social, and spiritual self. In other words, you are disconnected from your thoughts, your sense of self and self-care (i.e., physical health), dis-connected from an adequate social support system (or you are connected to toxic one), and you are disconnected from your power source-our faith and belief system in Christ. Wow, that’s a lot of disconnection-no wonders, one would be depressed and anxious.

Clinically, depression is (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think, and how you act. Anxiety is a general term for several disorders that cause nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worrying. Millions of individuals suffer from both of these disorders annually and throughout their lifetime. Typical treatments for these disorders are medication and psychotherapy (counseling). But as a practicing psychotherapist who has witnessed and observed the benefits of exercise and nutrition in helping to heal mild to moderate forms of mental health disorders, I have changed my philosophy of treatment to a holistic approach: mind, body, and spirit.

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Nutritional Psychiatry

There is a new field in science named nutritional psychiatry. This is the intersection in research between science and cognitive functioning. It examines the relationship between diet, brain function, and the risk of mental disorders. Additionally, it examines the potential socioeconomic and environmental challenges detracting from the traditional dietary patterns that might otherwise support positive mental health.

In March/April, Ed. 2016 of the Scientific American Mind the researchers noted the following scientific outcomes:

  • Research on anxiety,
  • depression,
  • and exercise shows

That the psychological and physical benefits of exercise can also help reduce stress and improve mood (Mayo Clinic). Besides lifting your mood, regular exercise offers other health benefits, such as:

  • lowering blood pressure,
  • protecting against heart disease and cancer,
  • and boosting self-esteem.

Nutritional Imbalances trigger depression

There are several nutritional imbalances that can make one prone to depression:

  • essential fats,
  • blood sugar balance,
  • food intolerances,
  • low-level Vitamin D,
  • high sugar intake,

Health researchers have found a link between inflammation and depression. Inflammation is caused by obesity, high sugar diets, high quantities of trans fats, unhealthy diets in general, and STRESS!!!!
When we are depressed, we are more likely to eat carbs and junk food, which over time, causes weight gain and inflammation.

Honor your body as it deserves

Imagine the following at age 16 years old. You get a new car. You are told that this car must last you your lifetime. Remember, you only get this one car for your lifetime! How would you treat it? Would you schedule maintenance services on-time and consistently? Would you check tires and replace them as needed? Would you put damaged or used parts into a new car? If you have a luxury car (foreign model), would you take it to the local shop on the corner? Or would you run it into the ground, hoping it will hold out? Not likely would we risk any of these scenarios. We would be mindful and careful to take off that car. Think of that car as your body. Because at birth, we only get one, and it’s designed to last a lifetime if we take care of it. What is your relationship with your body? What is your relationship with food?

According to the Dictionary, the definition of food- “is any nourishing substance that is eaten, drunk, or otherwise taken into the body to sustain life, provide energy, promote growth,” If we savored food like this definition, we would enjoy our food so much more and would make healthier food choices. Unfortunately, we live in a culture that is saturated with the marketing of high-fat foods and high sugar diets. We must be better informed.

Food Effect on our Mind and Bodies

Can I share research about what our foods are doing to our minds and bodies? This may not be favorable to many, but it’s the truth. Check the numbers of obese children and adults in the world. Check the names of individuals living on disability due to emotional and physical health conditions. We also know that about 50% of women who try psychiatric medications never get the benefit, and after a year of being on them, 60% show no improvement in their symptoms one year later.

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Processed food linked to depression and anxiety

Here we go. Evidence links stereotypical Western diets, which are heavy in processed and fatty foods, to higher rates of depression and anxiety. Unhealthy diets most likely contribute to a range of neuropsychiatric disorders by increasing inflammation. Research indicates that traditional diets from the Mediterranean, Scandinavia, and Japan help to preserve our psychological and cognitive well-being. Those diets all include fish ( a great source of omega-3 fatty acids). The Mediterranean diet consists of fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole grains, lean meats, and olive oil. The main feature of this diet is that it is low in sugar and processed foods.

But there is hope! Let me offer some food for thought (no pun intended). If you keep the mindset that “knowing that what I eat can affect how I feel” will help you to see food as fuel and not necessarily as a restrictive diet. We are finding that there is compelling evidence that nutrition is as important to psychiatry as it is to cardiology, endocrinology,and gastroenterology. (March/April Ed. 2016 of the Scientific American Mind).

Of course, in addition to food choices, the elimination and reduction of toxic stress in your life, which often leads to emotional eating, needs to be kept in check. That’s where a support group, psychotherapy, or a nutritionist or health coach would be integral to your success in the battle of the mind.
Want to feel better? Want to live longer and with less stress on your mind and body? Want your skin to glow and look refreshed daily? Want to sleep better? Do you want overall better cognitive functioning without depression or anxiety? Think “brain-healthy “foods. Visualize the image at the top of the article when making food choices and see where food will make an impact on your brain and health.

Overall, research continues to support and show that the main ingredients for a healthy brain diet will consist of fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts, fish, lean meats and healthy fats such as olive oil (March/April Ed. 2016 of the Scientific American Mind).

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Eat well. Live well. Live long. Be mindful; you only have one brain and one body.

Dr.Angela Clack wrote this post:

dr-angela-clackDr. Angela Roman Clack is a psychologist and licensed psychotherapist at Clack Associates, LLC, a private practice outpatient counseling agency in Southern New Jersey. She has been working in the mental health field for more than 25 years. Dr. Clack earned her doctorate in 2002 with a degree in Clinical Psychology from Argosy University, Washington, D.C.

Dr. Clack is known for her ability to teach, supervise, coach, and provide training in various areas about children, youth, and their families. Because of her training and teaching abilities, Dr. Clack has made a massive impact in her community by reducing the stigma of people of color who seek mental health treatment.

Dr. Clack is passionate about discussing mental health and wellness. She has a broad range of public speaking experiences, including community events, radio and internet shows, women’s empowerment groups and panel discussions, church and school settings, and collaborations with mental health advocacy organizations and non-profit community organizations. With her highly diverse clinical experiences and training in adult, child, adolescent, and forensic settings, she can discuss a broad range of topics.

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