Meant to be together

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I don’t think I realized my need for a community or friends until I left college.  When you’re in a social setting that surrounds you with opportunities to create friendships, it’s easy.  Then I got married, had a baby, and moved six hours away from my friends, family and the life I had made. I went through seasons of life in a flash. We lived in Massachusetts and my husband was following his career aspirations and worked long hours. I stayed at home with our newborn daughter and although I wasn’t alone I felt very much alone.  It took years to make friends, which were just mom friends of children that my daughter grew up with.  There were a few lasting bonds as our children grew older but nothing like my good ole college days.

A change of heart

Six years later, we moved back to my hometown and I reconnected with old friends from high school.  Then, I began to follow Christ and suddenly my love affair with the Lord began to come between my friendship. As I became more acquainted with Christ the people I chose to spend my time with weren’t those old high school buddies.

1 Corinthians 15:33 33 Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

I needed to be with people who had similar interests and beliefs and had more to offer me than a high bill at the bar during happy hour.  I needed people who believed in what I believed, Jesus.  Again, that yearning for companionship began and I started to look at the only place I knew, church.

Being new to Christ, I was amazed at how hard it was to find people who I could connect with beyond the pleasantries of chit chat at church.  I finally thought I had connected with another mother of three children who ages were the same as mine.  It was great to have someone to relate to on multiple levels.  I confided in her struggles and suddenly she severed ties.  I am still not sure why and it is very awkward at church; I could have questioned myself, what I say? Did I do something?

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There are no perfect people: Especially Christian church goers

Matthew 15:8-9 “‘These people honor me with their lips,but their hearts are far from me.They worship me in vain; their teachings are merely human rules.’

Of course, there is more detail to the story but it’s not worth getting into.  I did learn though, not every one at church has the same heart; others have ulterior motives. I later learned that this women has a history of befriending new members and then abruptly ending the friendship; using the guise of friendship to help grow her direct sales business and then inexplicably moving on. (We all have our issues, no perfect people right?)

Needless to say, I was disappointed but we shouldn’t give up.

Hebrews 10:24-25 24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

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Someone for everyone

I began attending women’s bible studies at our church, hoping I could find women in Christ to learn, grow and bond with.”Turning the other cheek,” on my past experiences and moving on. Through women’s bible stduy, I would fullfill the need for fellowship while growing in Christ-win-win, right?  In my group their was a good mix of new believers and old but I couldn’t relate to the women personally (spiritually,yes) and it wasn’t the companionship I was seeking.

Proverbs 13:20 Walk with the wise and become wise,for a companion of fools suffers harm.

Although, the knowledge was what I needed in my spiritual walk.  After a year with the study group, I did find someone that was also seeking a group of women to fellowship with.  We had similar personalities but in different seasons of life.  God kept connecting us in various ways to fulfill our need for a friendship with a women in Christ.  She wasn’t what I thought I was looking for but she was exactly what I needed.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up,just as in fact you are doing

Do you think it is important to have Christian friends or it doesn’t matter what they believe? Is it hard for you too to find Christian friends?

If: Gathering

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If: Gathering

As a mom, I don’t get the opportunity to dress up like I used to.  Typically, leggings and a long shirt, sometimes I may even do my hair and makeup.  My church isn’t the dress up kind of church, so I will typically wear something nice but I don’t get to get “fancy”. When I go invited to the IF: Table I was excited for multiple reason, one being the women fellowship and another I would be able to break out some “fancy” duds ( not necessarily fancy but get a little dressed up).

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Dressing for your body, today

Grace Boutique with Premier Jewelry

Going through my closet was discouraging, I am still at that awkward stage of postpartum.  Too small and so tired of maternity and not small enough for my former size 6 wardrobe (although I am working diligently to get back).  I don’t want to buy clothes in this size.  I am grateful to have found Grace Boutique beautiful, unique, mommy friendly boutique.  I went in there and they had exactly what I needed. One shirt/dress that can be worn six different ways and the best part yet, it covers my mommy tummy and curves.  Paired it with my Girl’s best friend necklace that can be worn 30 different ways and I have 36 different outfits with two pieces.  The best part is that both companies make being a modest Christian women stylish and classy.  Just what I need until I can fit back in my wardrobe again.

Need to fellowship

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I also needed the fellowship with the women that the If:table gathering brought me, what an amazing experience.  It’s an amazing ministry bringing women together like in the old church to talk about their lessons with God.  The night was amazing we all brought a side dish and out hostess made a delicious pasta meal.  I loved that we all garden and brought fresh side dishes, grown and picked by us,  I left the meal soul filled and stuffed. The guest including myself was from all walks of life.  New moms, multiple children mother, mom of teenagers, and a widow.  The different perspectives, ages and experiences made for a great in depth night.

We were given four thought provoking questions.  Some of the ladies answers really made me think about my own relationship with Christ.  I was so blessed from the experience and I am hosting my own If:table this month.  I can’t wait to share with a different group of women this experience and learn from a new group of women to grow from. With my two pieces from Grace Boutique and SamBling I also don’t have to worry about an outfit. Is there something you do to fellowship with different women or the same thing every month?

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Getting my Mojo Back

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Getting My Mojo Back

So, that just happened, standing there minding my business after volunteering for five hours at a Children’s consignment sale and an innocent man asked, “When are you due?”  This question is the kiss of death for a recently postpartum mom’s. For a Mom like me who has been struggling for a year to lose the gainwaytomuchduringpregnancyeventhoughsheknewbetter weight this was the nail in the coffin.This man didn’t know that I had been running in the hamster wheel for 2.5 miles, four days a week to no avail.  This man didn’t know that I then power walked every evening, crunched myself into oblivion, removed all the carbs out of my life and beat myself up for every indulgence and eating blunder.  He did not know that although my Instagram feed tempted me with quick fixes; like wraps, shakes, pills, and “fix it” workouts. This man didn’t know that I was nursing my sweet baby girl and believed there had to be a better way to fix my weight issue (which I never had before).  So, I told him shamefully “I’m not pregnant” and let him beat himself up for a little bit while I left shameful yet motivated to change.  Now ordinarily, I would plan my attack to again “fix” my weight but this time I took it to the Lord.  I continued to run, walk and eat but I prayed for God to help me get my body back.

Led to a Solution

A few weeks later I discovered Periscope, a fantastic social media tool that allows you to broadcast or view live broadcast and engage with the broadcaster and other viewers.  Somehow, someway I discovered Kate Horney,  a mom, a personal trainer and engaging Periscope broadcaster.  After watching a couple scopes checked her out and joined a webinar.  There was a ton of information but four things that I took away.

  1. Workout for 20 minutes a day 3 days a week
  2. I can eat carbs, I can eat
  3. Workouts based on hormones and body types
  4. No cardio

Those four things led me to the big yellow “Sign Up Now”.  It’s been almost four weeks and I can say God truly answered my prayers with Beyond Fit Mom. After further information and training from Kate, I learned my struggle was do to using a cookie cutter formula to my exercise and not accounting for my hormones. The Beyond Fit Mom workout is customized to your specific body type and takes in account all those hormones you have going on.

After working out for 8 months heavy cardio I had no results. After working out for a month and following her nutrition guidelines I have lost 8 inches, almost 10 pounds, have more energy, less training and appreciation for my nutrition and fitness, instead of resentment.  I have been able to add nursing friendly supplements to enhance my nutrition and workouts.

Mojo Back

 

Getting Back on the Rollercoaster

I have been down the weight loss rollercoaster three times now. Growing up, I was always thin but when I got pregnant with my first baby I gained 95 pounds then lost it. Got pregnant with my second big baby girl and gained 85 pounds and lost 105 pounds. Got pregnant with my third sweet baby girl and did a little better gaining 75 pounds. Except this time I picked up an additional 20 pounds. A month after my first daughter came home I totaled 95 pounds to lose.  Each time I have lost the weight I have done it different then before. When I found this new program since my old ways weren’t working it was  like “here we go again.” I know I can lose the weight I’ve done it before it’s just putting in the work, albeit it’s a whole lot less in the past but still it is work. There are some benefits this time around too.

Mojo Back.

 

Strengthening my Marriage

My husband now does the workouts with me and has had results (of course better results than mine, eyes rolling). It has given us something to bond over.  When I went to the gym we couldn’t bond because he would have to watch the girls. Now that we can do it at home, we have something we can do together, even as a family sometimes.  I have now canceled my gym membership, have more times for my girls since all I need is 20 minutes 3 days  a week.  I am now hooked to Beyond Fit Mom lifestyle and can’t wait to share my continued success as I get my pre-baby body back.

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Have you hit a fitness rut? What helped you lose weight or create a healthy lifestyle?

 

Chocolate Peanut Buttercups

Homemade Peanut Butter Chocolate Cups

These are so easy after making them twice I no longer need the recipe.

This recipe was adapted from Beyond Fit Mom

Makes 12

4 tbsp coconut oil

2 tbsp brown rice syrup or honey (I made these the second time with honey and think this was the better sweetener)

2 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder or carob powder

4 tbsp peanut butter ( homemade or natural)

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Directions
1. Melt coconut oil in a double boiler. Whisk in Brown rice syrup or honey then add unsweetened cocoa powder or carob powder.

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2. Mix until thick (VERY IMPORTANT) if it is very thin it is probably unsweetened chocolate which makes for a very nasty peanut butter cup (trust me!!!)

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3.  Line mini cupcake pan with cupcake liners. Pour into liners till 1/3 full. Then freeze for 15-20 minutes.

Lined Chocolate Cups

4. Once chocolate is hard add about 1/4 tsp of peanut butter in each cup and smoosh it a little. Then pour chocolate to cover peanut butter.

Homemade Peanut Butter Cups

5. Freeze for 30 minutes. Once chocolate has harden pull out and eat. I would store them in the refrigerator the coconut oil makes these literally melt in your hand.

Giving Glory not Seeking Attention

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1 John 2:15-17 (NIV) 15 Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. 16 For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17 The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.

The Wrong Road to Success

When I was in the world, I constantly sought acceptance and recognition from others. Striving to keep up with the Jones’ to prove to others I was equal to them and their success.  Never measuring up to the constantly raising ceiling of status and fearing mediocrity.  Then, I accepted Jesus who unconditionally loved me whether I was poor or rich.  No matter my social status I was perfection in His eyes. My desire to possess things I couldn’t afford put my life and marriage under emotional and physical stress.  The more I focused on what I didn’t have the more anxious and depressed I became.  Then, I grew more in Jesus.  I realized that only He could create the wealth and comfort I sought. Only through Him what I yearned was easily possible.  Jesus fed thousands with only 5 loaves and 2 fishes; made wine out of water. He could surely help me pursue my dreams.

Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV) 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

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Finding My Way

All I had to do was connect with Him he was all the acceptance I need. All I had to do was glorify Him for all He has done, which should be easy since He has been the only one to actually do something for me by giving His life.  Then, I realized Jesus love for me. With His unfailing love my life and has been renewed.  I now am grateful for His sacrifice which has brought contentment and harmony to my life. I no longer have to prove to man I am worthy.  I have to praise Him for making me worthy.  I am now content with wherever I am in life because I know that no matter what I achieve or have on this earth, the best is yet to come. With that understandings brings a new awareness of how beautiful my life truly is and makes me want to be a light for Jesus. To show how God’s glory is shining through me.

Isaiah 55:12-13(NIV)12 You will go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and hills will burst into song before you, and all the trees of the field will clap their hands.13 Instead of the thornbush will grow the juniper,and instead of briers the myrtle will grow. This will be for the Lord’s renown,for an everlasting sign,that will endure forever.”

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Continuing on the right path

Now that I know this realization, I still struggle with staying focused on Christ. Old habits are hard to break and I still sometimes look at the greener grass on the other side of the fence. Although, I know that it is the same grass I am tempted to want it. I have to rely on Christ to keep me focused. I need him daily in my life to keep me from my own desires to want what others have. I try to find encouragement in the word. Being new to Christ I try to learn the word and am amazed at how that day’s devotion or a post I see on Social media is calling me back to where I need to be. I have asked mentors when will the struggle end and it won’t. “The struggle is real” but God’s grace is redeeming and without the struggle I don’t think that I would have the appreciation that I have.

Galatians 5:16 (NIV) 16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.

Is it hard to put your own pride aside and do for God? Do you seek guidance from God when setting to achieve goals? What do you do when you find yourself falling into old habits?

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